I get asked this question all the time. I have to be honest, before I became a life coach, I had only heard the term once or twice and that was on Oprah!
This is not what I normally blog about but since I have received so many questions regarding this, I decided to write this.

I will do my best to answer this in a current and relevant way that may be easily assimilated.

Have you wanted to do something and got really excited at the thought of doing it, but when you explored it further it became too overwhelming and you thought…“I don’t think I can do this” and then gave up?

Life coaching can get you past the overwhelm and put steps in place for you to achieve that very dream.

Are there some days where you walk around and ask yourself “Why am I here?” “What is my purpose for being here?” Do you have a knowing that you are here for more and you feel that you are not living that?

Life coaching is where all of these things are explored and figured out.

Are there relationships that you have that completely stress you out and you feel that you give more than you get?
Do you feel like you are stuck in something and it is hard to break free?
Are you able to completely be you and speak your truth in all situations?

Life coaching can empower you to be stronger and know what it is you want in every moment so you can be your true self with anyone and everyone. Coaching can enable you to become “unstuck” and free flowing!

Some people may have an idea that life coaching is like therapy but really it can be very different. Therapy delves into the past, where life coaching focuses on the present.
This process consists of team work between you and your coach.
CEO’s of major companies have coaches, entrepreneurs have coaches, artists, actors and musicians may have a coach, and the list goes on…

In a nutshell, Coaching is meant for you to live your most authentic life you can and to figure out, who you are, where you want to go, and how you want to be…then it is about simply BEING YOU.

Take 30 seconds today to honor yourself for being here and for being who you are, you are worth it!

When something comes up in your life that you don’t necessarily consider positive or you judge it as bad, how do you react to it? Is it something you completely fight against? Something that you want to just go away so you don’t have to deal with it?

I have found myself in this position before and have asked “why is this happening?”
The truth is on some level, I am co-creating this experience to happen for whatever reason that may be. Maybe it is to learn something or to break some sort of pattern. How many times have you had one experience and then you keep having that same experience? It’s Ground Hog Day!!! For instance, you are in one relationship, get out of it but then attract someone that isn’t far from what you had in the last one. Why do these people keep coming into your lives? Why? Because you asked them to!! Your higher self gets playful and says “ok, if that didn’t work, what about this!”

These are the ways in which we are being guided. It may not sound like angelic voices from the heavens or it may not look like light shining down in that moment, but you could perceive it like that if you choose. The players that come in and out of your life are the grandest mirrors of all for you, especially the people you are closest to. They represent the most of what you are working on a core level.

So, I ask again, how do you react to these people and/or situations?

If your point of view changed to see these “players” as mirrors that are doing the best job they can in fulfilling their role of reflecting what you need to know/work on/heal; would that make a difference in your reaction?

In the work I do with people, this is a focus and it is interesting to watch one move from a victimized role into a self-empowered state of being; simply changing a point of view. If you could look at a situation and bring your awareness to what the opportunity is for you in that specific situation, you then make your next move in navigating how you chose to handle that. Even the things that seem so very hurtful can be our biggest possibilities.

Really, only YOU have the power to heal thy self.

If you can imagine yourself as a complete puzzle, then all you are doing is merely picking up the pieces that these opportunities allow you to see to gently put into the whole. You are a whole being, fitting your pieces in one at a time.

Be the complete picture of your creation and bring the pieces of your puzzle together.

PS. If you are interested, my latest interview is at http://www.juniorscave.com/RandySpelling.html

Happy New Year! I hope that everyone’s holiday was joyous and celebratory.
I went to Sedona for my first time. I packed up the cooler, stuck it in the back of the car and road tripped it to cacti abound Arizona! There is so much hype around Sedona that I wondered if I would experience the energy the way that everyone talks about.
I don’t think one necessarily has to be sensitive to energy to feel how vibrant and alive the land is. However, if you are sensitive to energy or have an appreciation for beauty; HOLY CACTUS!

The sheer beauty of the red rock formations scattered with green desert fauna was a crisp contrast to the bluest sky I had ever seen. My most memorable moment…A Native American sweat lodge!

I have heard about this for a long time, but never participated in one…never really had the chance to.
A full blooded Native American, Rahelio, led about 8 people on New Years Eve in a sweat lodge where strangers come together in a teepee type construct with a fire and coals in the middle. He blended Native American tradition with many other forms of spiritual practice from around the world. Imagine almost pitch black and nothing visible but the faintly illuminated faces of people who have come together to reflect on their year, to give those things no longer serving them to the fire while claiming what they wanted for the incoming year. It was really powerful. This was done by talking, chanting, singing, rattling instruments and acknowledging each other in the similarities we all shared, not the differences.

I was sad to leave Sedona. I felt so connected to the land and nature there. Now back in the big city, how can I bring the elements of Sedona with me?
Have you ever experienced being on vacation and returning home wanting to bring how you felt on your vacation back with you?
I realized that as beautiful as Sedona was, it was just a mirror for me to experience what lies within. Sedona does not have to be outside of me, it can dwell within. The feelings I had there are alive within me.

So, I say to you that this is a new year full of what you wish to create. Full of feelings to explore within you. I’m sure many resolutions have been made. One question…are you passionate about those resolutions? Are you passionate about what you want?
If you truly are passionate about what you want, then take action in any way you can to get closer to what it is you want. Do not limit yourself by asking for money, job, etc…ask to be abundant. Why ask for a piece of the puzzle when you can manifest the whole. Be grateful for the abundance (in what ever form you do have) and create from that place! Then, maybe your outside reality can reflect what truly resides within you.

May this year bring all that honors and serves you and may your dreams be manifest!

Well, the holidays are here and there seems to be a tangible state of panic and fear. The economy is the worst it has been in a long time and the stock market is worse then the crash of 1929. It is really hard to not get sucked into the emotions and panic of what is happening.

I have been doing a lot of work with my clients lately around how they can nurture themselves through this time, how to shift perspectives into focusing on what matters most and how to create from a place of abundance, not lack and limitation.

These ways of being are essential to not only finding happiness but sustaining happiness. It is kind of like being the observer of what goes on around you without getting pulled directly into the eye of the storm. We cannot control everything that is going on around us but we absolutely can control our reaction to it.

There is a hurricane of immense global proportion right now, how will you take shelter?

Focusing on what you do have in the very moment helps keep you in a state of gratitude and openness. Remember, the past has already happened and the future has not. The only time you have is RIGHT NOW. Focusing on “how bad things are”, “how much you have lost”, “how horrible things are for people” only holds one in a state of fear and panic. Then we literally can be “frozen in fear”.

This holiday season, look around and find things that you are thankful for. Even though the stock market is in disarray, transmute that by taking spiritual “stock” of what you have and what you are most thankful for. Do something nice for yourself, even if that means giving someone else a hug because you need it! Put on a song of some sort that evokes the emotion you are looking for; do not do things that evoke more of the emotions you are not looking for.
These are examples of simple ways that you can be the change you want. You can be the polarity. This way, you are empowered to create the changes you want in yourself. This is how, when starting with ourselves, we can effect and change the world!

Happy Holidays and a truly wonder filled New Year for everyone.

I thought I would write a little poem about the most important word to me today.

What is truth to you?

Truth is something that is personal and only you know what your own is.

Truth is something that sometimes hurts very badly but it is always for the best.

Truth is based on a belief that may or may not serve you.

Truth can be one of the hardest things to speak forth, yet when spoken feels like a winter coat being taken off in summer.

Truth lies in the depth of our being, but not necessarily always being in depth.

If Truth is hiding in the shadows, some light will illuminate that darkness.

Truth allows a space of openness once it’s realized.

Truth is something so coveted by the individual because once understood, that is all there is.

Truth is not always what we think, but usually how we feel.

Truth acts as our personal guide ushering us to ourselves…