New For 2016

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It’s a whole new year and I can feel it! There is newness in the air as the blank canvas stares back. What will be created? What is possible?

For starters, I have to address the word new. For some reason, new anything sounds nice. It gets the adrenaline and endorphins pumping when new anything comes into play. New adventures, new experiences, new product for sale—even as an upgrade of something you already have that promises a better version. I’ll admit, I like new. It can be challenging to let go of old habits and patterns but new is always full of growth and potential. This New Year is no exception. What will you create for yourself in 2016? What new experiences do you dream of having? What new behaviors would you like to implement?

Those of you who are familiar with my work know that I guide people to move beyond old patterns and limitations to create a new Self—a more unlimited version—ripe with possibility, empowered, and in the flow of life. I have made new changes to how I work with people, created new programs, hosted new workshops, and launched a brand new website Randy Spelling (complete with a member section which I will discuss in a moment). I feel a greater sense of commitment to helping facilitate change in others more than I ever have, and I feel even more equipped for the task—more than I ever have. My goal is to reach the people who want this change—more than they ever have, so we can work together to create a brand new version of themselves that is dream worthy. I know this is possible. More than just believing, I have seen it work and when it does, it is truly awe inspiring to witness the transformation. When people start thinking differently, become fulfilled and enthusiastic about their own lives, and discover how to access the greatness that is within—magic happens. And, like a little boy at a magic show, I want more! Bigger stunts, more shocks, more smiles, high amounts of amazement. Yes, that is what I am going for in 2016!

Why?

Why Not?!

Because I can. Because You can. Because we can. Less struggle, more play.

The more people can realize they are the ones they have been waiting for in order for their life to completely change, the quicker transformation can happen. Please read below to see all the new offerings. I wish you a year of transformation, magic, wonderment, and joy in the process of becoming YOU.

 

New for 2016

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This is nothing short of awesome! Past and current clients, businesses, or people who cannot afford private coaching—my membership program is right up your alley.

You want change? Here it is!

I designed this to make big changes at an affordable monthly rate and you go at your own pace. Essentially, you use your own life to grow, change, and transform. What better material to use than the very experiences in your life, right? I am sending challenges to these members every week with simple, easy to follow instructions complete with supporting articles and steps on how to accomplish these goals. Through these challenges and recorded short videos, I’ll help you to stay inspired to play in the realms of transformation. There are 3 different options for memberships – and you’ll also receive my new Ebook, The Journey to Transformation: Destination Change.

Check out this short video and see if you get as excited about this as I am!

http://www.randyspelling.com/memberships/

 

New Courses, Tele-classes, and Workshops

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Monthly Door Opener Call

New to coaching or wondering how it can help you? Want to become a coach yourself? Have a question about something that doesn’t seem to be working from the tools you already have? Randy is available through phone or skype to help you anywhere around the world. These monthly calls allow us  to interact one-on-one to have your questions answered, while also hearing a brief talk about a particular topic of interest. This, is for YOU!  http://www.randyspelling.com/workshops/

 

Unlimiting You – Beyond the Book Course

Many people have read my book, Unlimiting You, and have shared incredible results from applying the solutions in the book to their lives. I wanted to go deeper and put these concepts into action. This 10 week course will build from week to week and is designed to move people into a more unlimited state-of-being. I don’t want to just scratch the surface, I want lasting change. Concepts are just thoughts that stay in our minds until we experience them as a feeling. Then, and only then, does it become real. You can find out more here Workshops

http://www.randyspelling.com/workshops/

 

Mastermind / Masterheart Group

This can be a 6 Month Group or ongoing. Mastermind groups have been proven to be highly effective where people make gigantic strides forward. This is no exception. I chose to call it masterheart group because I have realized that in order to make necessary changes and start to master one’s self, it must be done from the head and heart. Their needs to be synergy between them so that is aimed to address both aspects of ourselves.

Learn more: http://www.randyspelling.com/workshops/

 

Personal Coaching

As always, I offer private coaching for individuals as well as businesses both in Portland, Oregon and anywhere around the world through Skype. I have changed my structure slightly to reflect the way I see the most growth happening.  I have found coaching to be like exercising. If you only exercise one or two times but desire any type of long term fitness goals, you are not going to get the highest impact toward your goals. For this reason, I have moved to the packages. I really want people to be serious clients and to invest in themselves. It is the greatest gift one can give and having done it myself, I know how important self-care and having a partner to walk the journey with you can be. This also happens to be more cost effective solution, as one-off sessions are higher priced. Click the button below to watch the video and find out more.

http://www.randyspelling.com/coaching/

More fun stuff to follow soon!

With Love,

Randy

The View

download (1)My daughter plays in the summer sun, wading through grasses as deep as her knees. She is in the thick of life. When she runs to me, and I swoop her up onto my shoulders, the world is transformed before her. This new view, this more distant perspective, thrills her. Her world expands, and she is delighted. She lets go of my shoulders, trusting I will keep her safe while she looks around, arms wide, as if she is hugging the world. Sometimes I look up from the keyboard, from the grocery list, from the details of life I am knee-deep in, and as I take a breath and stretch, the world expands for me, too. I am safe and delighted. When you rise above your own lawn and feel the vast majesty of life itself, how do you feel? What do you see?

Reflections on my book review

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Fact: It is impossible see yourself from an outside perspective, only through photographs and reflections. This is why it’s invaluable to have other people around who can observe and appreciate things we can’t. People who see our eyes light up when we share an interest we are passionate about.

A review of something we’ve created can act as another kind of mirror.

Yes, I can now see and hold the book I wrote, Unlimiting You, but I couldn’t see the straightening of my spine, the quickening of my typing speed, or the spark in my eyes when I got into a really good flow as I wrote it. I will never read it the same way anyone else will read it. I am privy, however, to the extended, technicolor version of each story and example that made it through editing and into print. I own my experience of the emotions and events of every personal inclusion. I know the story behind the book, and that influences how I read it. These are my privileges and my limitations.

Sometimes my image of myself and an outsider’s image are similar, and other times not. When taking a new selfie to post, most people take several shots in lighting they consider flattering and at their own preferred angles. They may delete the bulk of those and post the very best. Since I am always honest and transparent with my readers, I’ve received a notification in the past of someone who has tagged me in a photo and met that photo with “Yikes!” (Not so much now, but a couple times someone unearthed a picture from a late night stint back in my Hollywood days. Let’s just say there were a few that weren’t so pretty). Sometimes the picture barely resembled me. Other times I got to see a view of myself I hadn’t seen before. Maybe I was looking off into the distance, concentrating, laughing, or otherwise lost in the moment.

Occasionally, the image closely mirrored my own view of myself. It’s comforting, to be seen in a recognizable way, but what about the times when someone else’s perspective exceeds any of my inner “selfies?” It makes my day. I recently had an opportunity to see my work reflected back to me. My book Unlimiting You was reviewed by San Francisco Book Review a few days ago. The review is a positive one, and it reflects my work in a way I not only recognize, but deeply value. What an honor to be so clearly “seen” and appreciated. Thank you, writer Hubert O’Hearn, for this gift. If his review were a photo I was tagged in, I’d probably download it and share it. I’d still like to share this “image” of me, so please click here: San Francisco Book Review

Who can you gift today with your reflections on his or her strengths, accomplishments, and talents? Consider not just who would be easiest to share this with but who would benefit from it the most. Maybe someone you don’t typically do this for, such as a sibling, co-worker, or even your boss. Never underestimate the power mirroring that which people find most elusive–themselves.

 

The 6 Letter Word that Will Change Your Life

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It happens as we get older. In fact, it happens in every stage of our lives. It happens in relationships, with technology, or our views about life. At times we want it. Other times we fear it. This word does not discriminate in any way shape or form. The question is not what the word is ( in case you have already guessed it). The question is are we a part of it or scared for it to happen? Yes, the word is…

Change

Most people identify with wanting something to change in their lives. Heck, we all want to change something in our lives, right? Think of a couple ways you would like to change your life. If you know what you want to change, why aren’t you making those changes? You know it, so do it. Easy, right? Not necessarily. I run across this all the time as a Life Coach. People want to make changes and they want to make them quickly. They do the necessary actions but sometimes it isn’t enough and the change they want doesn’t come. Time to dig a little deeper Watson (I have always wanted to say that dressed in a Sherlock Holmes outfit)! Joking aside, that’s what we need to do here; be our own detectives and gain some self awareness to find what is really holding us back from living the most fulfilled life possible. Let’s look at what can be lurking behind change so you can start moving forward, making the changes you ultimately want but might not seem to attain.

What’s Stopping You?

Whether it is changing careers, entering or exiting relationships, speaking up, carving time out for yourself, stopping an unhealthy pattern – or many more things I could list – change needs to happen. So, why isn’t it happening? The number one factor is: FEAR. Fear of the unknown, fear of safety and security, fear of a possible repeat of a pain or trauma. Fear stops people in their tracks. Even the anticipation of fear causes fear. What a powerful emphasis and energy we have given over to this mere four letter word. Sometimes rational, sometimes not — fear can be a bully. What are the biggest factors underneath fear? Death, safety, pain, control, and feeling emotions that we might not be comfortable feeling. Before we get swept away here on the bullet train of fear, here is a perspective for you: you have experienced all of those things aforementioned and, although the outcome may have ranged from uncomfortable and horrible to not so bad and even empowering — you have survived! If you are reading this, you have survived. More than survived: in most cases you have grown from it.

It is said that the anticipation of fear is worse than the actual thing being feared. Why? Our minds are THAT powerful. You see, fear is within you. It is not bigger than you. Fear resides within you, even if you see yourself residing within fear. Let’s give fear its proper size and shape. We as creative beings have the ability to create a perceived reality that is greater than us.  But guess what? It cannot be greater than us because we are the ones creating it! Let me say that again, so it can penetrate whatever wall, shell, or defense might be there.

We, on some level, are the ones that perpetuate creating this fear that somehow has become bigger than us, but it is not. If we have the power to create it, we can change it.

Committing to Change

If you really want to change, you have to be willing to be uncomfortable for a brief period of time. Getting in a cold shower is uncomfortable, but you will survive and probably come out shaking and cold, but invigorated with much more energy than you had before entering. Moving past fear will always leave you invigorated, because the risk feels so big. Heard the saying, “Without risk, there is no reward?” You are no stranger to risk. You have risked many things in your life no matter how it turned out. Here are some questions for you to start looking at fear and change in a different way:

1) What do you want to change?

2) What do you need to do to make this change?

3) What about it do you anticipate, fear, or worry about?

4) What will happen if you do not make the change you want to make?

5) How will not making that change effect you and what you want for yourself in your life?

6) What are 3 things you can do to start on the path to that change?

These are  questions just to get you  started. This is such an important topic for people. I dedicate a whole chapter to it in my book, Unlimiting You. I go into more depth and give how-to’s for even greater discovery and change.

Remember, change is imminent. Our planet, our species, and our lives will always keep changing. Will we be able to adapt to the currents of change knowing that change is growth? That is up to you, but I suggest that if you know you want something to change, be your own detective and put things in their proper perspective knowing that you have already come this far in life, and if you have been wanting to change something, that inner nudge is there for a reason. Love yourself and support yourself enough to start the process.

 

Finding the Value In You

Value You!

I was talking with some friends yesterday about how life has become incredibly fast paced.  It seems like we move from one thing to another so quickly, just like searching for information on the web.  Someone might want to buy something because he or she momentarily sees the value in it.  But then they get it and a few days later they are on to the next thing; much like children can be at Christmas when they have several gifts to open.

Then there is the value we place on ourselves as well as other people.  Value is a word that isn’t “valued” enough.  We all hear catch phrases in the self-help and spiritual circles such as grace, forgiveness, and acceptance.  It seems that value is left out.  I want to take this underdog and shine some light on it so hopefully you can see how to make value a part of our daily practice.

It may be because I am a Life Coach, but I run into people not valuing themselves on a daily basis.  It might creep in subtly as a subconscious thought that whispers ever so slyly in the mind, “What you have to offer isn’t good enough.”  It might take the form of comparison such as, “That person is so comfortable in that part of their lives and I am not, what’s wrong with me?”

How do we shift this?  First, you have to know where it comes from.  You have experienced devaluation somewhere in your past, heard it from someone close to you or around you and bought into it.  You drank the kool-aid, so-to-speak, and all of that unnatural chemical dye is still in your body wreaking havoc and coloring how you view yourself.  Are you ready to let this go?  Is this serving you in any way to keep this outdated program running your life, halting you from recognizing your own value and worth as the wonderful being you are? If not, it’s time for you to upgrade.  Do you want to be able to value other people?  Do you want other people to value you?  You have to start with yourself and learn how to value yourself, the rest will follow.  Here are some steps you can take for finding the value in you:

1. Be aware of any thoughts that are working against you

Anytime you have thoughts that pop up on your “not valuing myself” radar, listen to them and simply acknowledge that you are having these thoughts.  Ask yourself if these thoughts match how you want to view yourself.  If they don’t match, then change the thoughts to align with true statements about yourself that create value and self worth.  You can even say this out loud (You get extra points if you say these around someone so they really think you are crazy!).  Make a declaration about yourself. Why not?  The declarations you have had about devaluing yourself haven’t been working so far, have they?

2.  Find the value that you bring in each moment

Sound lofty?  Be as present as you can in each moment by reminding yourself that all things happen in complete synchronicity.  Everything that happens in life is in flow, even at the tough and not so pretty times.  Take the present moment to enjoy the experience you are in.  Find the value in you. When you can show up fully, you create value beyond measure.  Others will feel it and you will too.

3.  Find value in each person

I may be lobbing a hard to swallow concept over to you, but even your worst enemy can be your biggest teacher.  There is value in each person, even if we cannot fathom it in the moment.  Start to look at each person you come into contact with as having value.  Each person plays his part on this stage we call life.  It can be Shakespearian at times but hey, isn’t that the fun?  Maybe if the Montagues and Capulets could see each other’s value in their respective lives, the play would have turned out differently.

Value yourself in all the ways you can.  Value others in all the ways you can.  Maybe, just maybe, we can evolve to a place where we can value each other and what we bring to each other’s lives.

Of course, it all starts with you.